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LADIES, IF YOU LOVE HIM, YOU WON'T STRESS HIM

They lied to you when they said, “If a lady really loves you, she will stress you and trouble you.” That statement is not just misleading — it is damaging. It creates a narrative that chaos is a proof of affection, that being toxic is a badge of interest. No! A godly woman does not express love through manipulation, confusion, or constant conflict. Love is not pain dressed as passion. True love builds, not breaks. It protects, not provokes. It brings peace, not persistent drama.

The Proverbs 31 woman is not described as a burden to her husband, but a blessing. The Scripture says, “The heart of her husband safely trusts her… She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” (Proverbs 31:11-12). That’s not stress. That’s strength with grace. A godly lady who loves you will be a covering, not a constant crisis. She may correct you, but not crush you. She may challenge you, but never choke your peace. Her presence will inspire growth, not drain your joy.

When a woman stresses and troubles a man in the name of “love,” she is either wounded, untrained, or misinformed. And this is why many godly men are now confused, mistaking emotional trauma for commitment. Sister, your value is not in how hard you can frustrate a man’s life to test his love. It is in how peaceful and purposeful your presence can be, so he can fulfill his calling without emotional injuries. It is not strength to be chaotic, it is immaturity disguised as confidence.

Let’s raise a generation of ladies whose love is not toxic but tender. Whose love does not shout “take me as I am,” but prays “Lord, help me become who I should be.” A godly woman is not the kind of stress you endure — she is the kind of peace you thank God for. Dear lady, be the kind of woman a godly man can pray with, build with, and journey with — not the one he must constantly recover from.

Prince Victor Matthew 

Hope Expression Values you. 

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