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THE DANGER OF TOXIC ATTITUDE AS A LADY

As a lady of godly value, there is no glory in being bold about a toxic attitude. Confidence is beautiful, but when it is laced with pride, defensiveness, or emotional manipulation, it no longer reflects the heart of Christ. Sadly, in a world that often applauds “savage” behavior and calls it strength, many have confused toxicity for confidence. But godly character is not about how loud you speak—it’s about how much peace you carry and how safe others feel around your presence.

Ask yourself sincerely: Am I dependable? Can the people God has placed in my life trust my words, my reactions, my support, and even my silence? Many relationships, friendships, and even divine assignments have been lost not because the other person was wrong, but because the attitude we carried became too difficult to accommodate. Godly value is not measured by how much you post scriptures online, but by how your attitude reflects those scriptures in private and in conflict.

Peacefulness is not weakness. A gentle and quiet spirit, as Scripture says in 1 Peter 3:4, is of great worth in God’s sight. How peaceful are you when things don’t go your way? Can God trust you with influence without it turning into pride? Can others approach you without being afraid of being misunderstood or judged? These are the inner questions that help us become not just beautiful on the outside, but whole, wise, and graceful within.

The glory of godliness in a woman is not in her appearance alone, but in the purity of her spirit, the gentleness of her responses, and the depth of her love. So before you declare, “This is just who I am,” ask yourself—is this who Christ has called me to be? It is never too late to unlearn toxic patterns and embrace the healing and transformation that makes you a true lady of godly value—peaceful, dependable, and a reflection of Christ’s love wherever you go.

Prince Victor Matthew 

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