Your Dream Relationship

I am not here to teach you.

I am here just to suggest an idea to you.

You are free to discard it or embrace it! 

I don't know it all.

I don't have it all.

I have not seen it all.

I am not better than you.

You have your uniqueness and I have mine.

So on the ground of co-human, I present my suggestion

I will focus on a subject tagged: *Your dream relationship*

First thing first - your dream relationship. 

I will start by this: RELATIONSHIP was created for you and apart from relationship, you worth a value. 

Your dream relationship will never become real if you lack the accurate knowledge and understanding of your *identity*

Who are you?

This is the first question, you should be able to define and identify.

My sister, I am an advocate for ladies and I believe that ladies were not just created for relationship and marriage and child bearing alone.

As a matter of truth, this ought to be the last thing on the list when it comes the worth and value of a lady.

*Who am I?* 

This is the function of your identity. Every identity is not your identity. You were not created to be every thing, be every where and be with every one. 

Your God and Father is a deliberate God that deliberately created you for a deliberate purpose. 

You are specific in worth and value. Every thing God has planned for your life is customised to you and your uniqueness. 

Your identity is actually who God has ordained you be become and do before he formed you in your mother's womb.

Taking John the Baptist as a case study. Let's check the scripture.

Can we?

And this is the record of John, when the Jews sent priests and Levites from Jerusalem to ask him, Who art thou?  And he confessed, and denied not; but confessed, I am not the Christ.  And they asked him, What then? Art thou Elias? And he saith, I am not. Art thou that prophet? And he answered, No.  Then said they unto him, Who art thou? that we may give an answer to them that sent us. What sayest thou of thyself?  He said, I am the voice of one crying in the wilderness, Make straight the way of the Lord, as said the prophet Esaias.

John 1:19‭-‬23 KJV

Here is a picture for identity. If you can get it this night - you are settled in truth for life

Vs 19. People sent a message to John to question him on his *identity* 

In life, every thing around you will question you. Apart from what the media suggest to you, apart from what friends, guys, and the people around you suggest to you - who are you!

LIFE WILL QUESTION YOU

Vs 20 - John declare - who he is not! 

In life, you must be able to know who you were not created to become. Nice suggestion were there. It was good and lovely but he rejected the temptation of a FAKE IDENTITY. 

He refused impressing any one. As a lady, you must pass this test. People will suggest things to you, some of them will look nice, lovely and unique but is that who you really are? 

Dare to stop impressing people.

Dare to escape the temptation of FAKE IDENTITY

Vs 21 - people suggested to him but he said NO! 

As a lady, you must learn the attitude to say "no" to any thing, any suggestion, ideas and enticement that do not support the lifestyle Of Jesus. 

Don't flow with the trend. Your friends might say you are old fashion. They might mock you as a virgin. They might mock you decision of saying "no" to night club. They might mock you for saying "no" to phonography etc BUT Learn to say "no" to any one no matter what you stand to loose.

Saying "no" to what you know does not please God is not DISRESPECT

Vs 22 - the people asked him a question *what do you have to say about yourself?*

This is the point! 

Are you just re-sounding the suggestion of the media? Apart from what mum, dad, relatives, ex lovers or your present love told you - *what do you have to say about yourself?*

Intellectually speaking, what do you have to say about your self? 

Spiritually speaking, what do you have to say about your self? 

Socially Speaking, what do you have to say about your self? 

Creatively speaking, what do you have to say about your self? 

Attitude wise or relational speaking, what do you have to say about your self? 

If you are to define your own life; what is the definition of your life?

Vs 23 - He went into the scripture or should I say the prophecy concerning His life to define himself.

Whose standard are you using to define your self? 

Every thing John the Baptist spoke about himself were things that the Word of God has written concerning him.

As a lady, have you discovered what the Word of God have to say about you? 

As a lady, do you even have a clue about the prophecy and vision stored up in the scriptures - waiting for you to discover them?

*Your Dream Relationship* is actually a relationship that is birthed through the knowledge and understanding of your identity in Christ

Your identity in Christ can be broken into three items

- Your calling 

- Your God's given purpose. 

- Your Assignment 

Your identity in Christ will and must always point you to these three things!

What Has God called you to do?

What has God created you to do as a lady? 

Asking this question does not mean you are going to be a pastor or a pastors wife. But what has God really cut you out for? 

Your *calling* will always point you to your *divine purpose* . And your *divine purpose* will always point you to your *assignment* .

This is what your bible study, meditation on God's word, fasting and prayer and personal relationship with the Holy Spirit ought to FOCUS on.

Let redefine some things. 

Your dream relationship. 

What is beauty? 

Beauty is the influence and impact you have BECOME and EXPRESSING through character, ideas, talent and manner of approach!

Are you beautiful? 

The experience the people around you enjoys or endures is what determine the measure of the beauty you possess 

Who is a female? 

A female is a specific solution to a specific problem in her generation.

A female is a specific answer to a specific question in her generation.

Who is a wife?

A wife is a suitable helper through her different capacity as a solution and an answer to her generation (not to her husband alone)

How do you identify your dream relationship?

It's in you identifying who God has created you to be and do in this generation. 

Your relationship is going to be an extension of who you have become and what you do. If you have not yet found your self in Christ- you won't be able to identify that man when he shows up. 

The nature of the man as your dream relationship will always flow with the nature of who God has created you to become and do. 

Eve is the Bone of the bone *of* Adam. Eve is not the bone *from* the bone of Adam.

You can also identify your dream relationship through the knowledge and understanding of the following

- your values 

- your priority 

- your needs

These three must be defined too from your personal relationship with God.

*How do I accept my dream relationship?* 

The first way to do that is for your to accept your self. Accept your past, your faults, your limitations, your strength, your identity, your calling, your purpose, your assignment and your struggles. 

Accept your self. Love your self and value your self.

The measure of strength you use to accept your self will be the same measure of strength you will use to accept that lovely man into your world for an healthy relationship. 

Some ladies believe in playing hard to get to approve a guy simple because - even them, they doubt their own self, they are not straight forward with own self, and they are confused about their own life. So they use their weakness to judge every guy that comes to them. They use their insecurity to judge and approve people.

Be your self! 

This playing hard to get - Eve did not do it. Ruth did not do it. Sara the mother of Father did not do it. 

Who is setting this standard for you? #playing hard to get! 

If you are close to the Holy Spirit, he will teach you who to accept and who not to accept. Remember it is only the people that are led by the Spirit of the Lord that are the sons and daughters of God!

*How do I nurture my dream relationship?* 

It's in you nurturing your self! It's in your nurturing your talent. It's in you nurturing your personal walk with the Holy Spirit. It's in you embracing a constant self development intellectually, socially, spiritual, relationally, creatively etc. 

How prepared are you? 

How healthy are you as a lady?

The quality of your life will be the same quality you will inject into your dream relationship.

Some of you are still like poisons. You are still on a revenge mission of what an ex lover did to you. You have a lot of baggages from your past. You have not dropped them at the feet of Jesus but you expect to identify, accept and nurture your dream relationship? No way!

Your relationship will be as healthy as your life is.

Mind you - some of you have found real love before but your old baggages from the past made you reject this guy; your dream relationship. I mean, the relationship you actually prayed for - was right in front of you and you pushed it away through your abusive, rude, gossip, carelessness, anger, jealous, unforgiveness, greed, and competition with your other female friends

Can God trust you enough to give you His son for love, relationship and marriage? 

Honestly, ask your self and mediate on it! 

Success is not a prove God is involved. Failure is not a prove God is absent. 

The reason why God is delaying some of you from entering into your dream relationship is because he knows - you are still poisonous. You are a poison. Poison to your self, dream and people around you. 

You judge every body expect yourself. Every body is wrong expect you. You talk as your please, behave as you like and yet don't want people to correct or complain.

If people should start treating you like you are treating them - will you call it your dream relationship?

If God should bring before you - a man with the exact attitude you have and all you have become as a husband - will you call it your dream relationship? 

I know men have their faults but men are not your problem. 

Whatsoever any man has ever done to you, it was because you allowed them; consciously or unconsciously

This is the path to your dream relationship.

Give more attention to your self and be healthy -I promise you, that God will crown your effort. 

Jesus is your HOPE. 

There is still hope for you in Christ Jesus.

I will leave you with this scripture

John 15:5 and Matthew 11:28-30

I take a bow

#PrinceVictorMatthew