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Be Friendly

My Sisters, 

Wisdom is the strength of beauty but understanding is the life of beauty. 

Beauty or intelligence has nothing to do with you being unfriendly. A 34 years old lady share her story with me and what unfriendly attitude has caused her. 

When you are not friendly in nature, you push people away from your self and when you need a serious relationship, and you become friendly ; it will paint you desperate because on a normal Day - no guy knows you as a friendly lady. 

Being friendly in nature is the greatest gift you can ever give your self as a lady. Be friendly for the sake of being friendly even if the guy will not date you.

Some men are just destined to be friends with you; adding value to your life. A man is just meant to be your friend first, then grow into intimacy with you from that stage of friendship.

A song writer wrote, HOW CAN WE BE LOVERS WHEN WE CANT BE FRIEND? 

This drama of knowing a guy for the very first time and the next thing is dating without you being friends first is the beginning of plenty heartbreak among ladies. 

Some men can like you And spend for you but will never think of asking you out. 

My elder brother made a comment about a lady this evening: I REALLY LIKE THIS LADY AS A PERSON AND I CAN BE THERE FOR HER BUT I DONT LIKE HER   IN THE ASPECT OF DATING HER. 

My sisters, don't you get? The fact a man likes you doesn't mean he must date you. The fact a man is asking you, can we be friends does not mean he has a plan to date you in future. 

Being friendly in nature is part of life. I have plenty of female friends. When I want to gist about poem, I know the lady to approach. When I want to gist about public speaking, I know the lady to approach. When I want to gist about scriptures, I know the lady to approach. For every aspect of my hobby, interest, field of life or talent - I know who and who to turn to for help or conversation.  


Be friendly and let your creativity, hobby, talent or area of interest in life be the common ground between you and your friends (men or ladies). 

Time is not your friend.

When you are 15 years old, the men seeking from friendship around you will be 12 in numbers.

When you are 20 years, the men seeking for your friendship will be 9 in numbers.  

When you are 25 years, the men seeking for your friendship will be 5 in numbers. 

When you are 27 years, the men seeking your friendship will reduce 3 in number.  

When you are 30 years, men seeking your friendship becomes a prayer point to you. 

Don't wait to use prayer point to solve a problem you can use being friendly to solve today. Don't deceive yourself; men that are flooding around you for your FRIENDSHIP today  won't be here in the next three years. 

You are getting older and your beauty is fading like the flower as each day goes by. 

Even foundation powder won't be about to replace your natural beauty when age begins to count against you. 

Be friendly and approachable. It's one thing for people to seek to be your friend but it's a different thing for you to be friendly. It's one thing for people to seek to love you but it's a different thing for you to be lovable.  

sister! You think you are too beautiful abi? Is it your shape and curves? Hahahah 

open your eyes and see these teenagers and you will be so shocked to know; They are more beautiful with better curves and shapes than you are. 

Be wise!  

Be friendly. Being rude and unfriendly is not a prove you are expensive, or beautiful. Being unfriendly is a prove you are immature and cheap! 

Be friendly and safe your self from the frustration of The present and future. 

Shalom.

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