I am not here to teach you. I am here just to suggest an idea to you. You are free to discard it or embrace it!  I don't know it all. I don't have it all. I have not seen it all. I am not better than you. You have your uniqueness and I have mine. So on the ground of co-human, I present my suggestion I will focus on a subject tagged: *Your dream relationship* First thing first - your dream relationship.  I will start by this: RELATIONSHIP was created for you and apart from relationship, you worth a value.  Your dream relationship will never become real if you lack the accurate knowledge and understanding of your *identity* Who are you? This is the first question, you should be able to define and identify. My sister, I am an advocate for ladies and I believe that ladies were not just created for relationship and marriage and child bearing alone. As a matter of truth, this ought to be the last thing on the list when...

What you wear has a direct impact on how people see you. Whether or not you like this conclusion, it’s science based. You can argue with the facts, but they’re still the facts.  Which leads me to my next question, what, then, is the purpose of wearing a bikini? That’s what I want my unborn daughter to consider one day when this question comes up (and in this culture, I’m sure it will). Is it because it looks stylish? There are lots of stylish suits with more cover. Is it to get her stomach nice and tan? Who’s going to be seeing that stomach? Is it to get attention from the opposite sex? That kind of attention has nothing to do with true affection. Is it because “I CAN”? Why not choose to assert your rights in ways that actually benefit you and society? Is it because “I have a nice body”? Yes, you do! And you should protect that awesome body from people who don’t value it. It’s important to challenge culture and the perspective we have regarding mod...

My Sisters! OUR PARENTS, OUR CLASS ROOM. I suffered a lot before the Holy Spirit was helped me to understand this truth and since then, I had rest of mind. First, your parents are the best parents ever. It's either yes or yes. They might not be who you want them to be. But you are here today because your parents made a way for you. It's easy for your gender to pick faults with dad or mum's life but what we have not be able to notice is the wisdom in their mistakes. The mistakes of your parents are the greatest treasure and inheritance. If you loose the touch of it, you will end up being worse than when they have become today. You might agree with me or disagree but your parents tried their best and gave their best effort. You can sit and judge them for some things but what you don't understand is "the struggles of parenting." You expect a lot for your parents but what you don't know is that they are confused about some issues just like you. They ...

In the world of love and relationship, we always have the ups and down from time to time. There will be times of pain and time of refreshing. I want to use Eccl 3:1 as my case study here. I also want to dedicate this post to ladies. You are God’s daughter and you deserve the best in love and relationship. There is time for every thing in life and I want you to open your eyes and learn. You can’t just be living as thou you can do what we like just because you are pretty or because you are heart broken. You need to come to a place where you respect order, time, and season. This is the first principle in you becoming the lady God has created you to be. He is innocent! You might not agree with me but this man in front of you. This man that asked you out or the man you just accepted for a serious relationship is innocent. I need you to come to place where you let go all the anger, revenge, and bitterness in your heart. I know you gave your best to your ex. I admit that you were ho...

Lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don’t have what it takes to be one without Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mind-sets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with Your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace, and joy (Galatians 5:22-23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transform me. Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You d...

Do you want to use your strength to figure out a way for your self or you will choose to depend on God's Grace for your life? Whatsoever God's Grace has not given you, you don't need it. I want you to be comfortable with your present lacks and be humble in your present provision. Your value is not about what you HAVE but it's all about WHO you are. Never you forget that. Where you are now does not in any way define WHO you are. Where you are presently in life is just a passing phase. Those people that thinks they know you now because of what you lack and where are now are MAKING A BIG MISTAKE. The truth is this; they don't have a clue to who you are becoming daily in Christ. Those that want to mock you should continue. Those that insult you should continue. Those that despise you should continue. Lift your eyes from them. Look ahead and see the beauty of your future in Christ. You are of a high breed of God's Grace. You are not in their low class. ...

Worship is not just a song but a lifestyle. Worship is not about the sound or music. Worship is an attitude. Worship to God is in every thing we do, see, think, desire and expect. Worship to God is the way you treat people (even when you are angry). Worship to God is in what you do when you are excited. Worship to God is in how you listen to people in conversation. Worship to God is how you depend on God for making every single decision of your life. Worship to God is in your polite words to people. Worship to God is in how you manage your sexual urge. Worship to God is in the choice of the kind of website you vision online. Worship to God in the way you forgive, love, and have compassion on people. Worship to God is in the way you discipline, rebuke and correct people (as God's children). Worship to God is in how you breakup with some one you are dating with the consciousness that this person you are breaking up with is still precious to God. Worship to God is the ki...

Here are the qualities that these real men are looking for in their  brides-to-be:  Realness It’s sometimes hard to believe that being “real” is attractive to a man.  I think it’s easy for women to look at the billboards and magazines that fill their minds with airbrushed beauty and enhanced bodies and think that being real makes you less than the others.  But I’ve found that real men are attracted to a woman who reveals her natural self. There is something about the beauty of a real woman that far exceeds the plastic Barbie version of their selves that women so much strive for and believe in. But men are not simply looking for a woman who is real with her appearance, but real with who she is.  When it comes to attracting a real man, there is no need to pretend.  They’re not looking for a woman who pretends to be into sports, cars, sex, or anything else she thinks her man wants.  They are looking for a woman to be fully herself…person...

What can a single person do to make themselves “available” without looking desperate? You’re approaching your mid-twenties, mid-thirties, and maybe even mid-forties as a single young adult.  It seems like everyone around you is getting ushered into the world of love and marriage, while you find yourself wondering if you will ever find the one.  You’re torn between trusting God to bring you the right one- and working it in the world of love and dating.   So, how exactly does a single young adult make themselves available without seeming too desperate? The only way to avoid looking desperate is to stop believing that you are, because a person will appear as desperate as they feel.  The more fixated you are on finding love and obsessed about entering marriage, the more desperate you will appear, because eventually, the things that you think about most start seeping into every part of your life for the whole world to see. Here are some ways to stop fixating...

If you’re anything like many of the single women I’ve come into contact with, you have pretty much given up on the idea of being recklessly pursued by a man. Forget the fairy-tale dream of being chased after in an attempt to win your heart.  Forget the love letters, the roses, the poems and songs.  Forget it all. At this point in life,  you’ll settle for about any sign of pursuit…heck, any sign of life from the opposite sex. So what is it about these guys that is keeping them from pursuing you?  Why have so many men failed to step it up and make the move? Though I can’t speak from all men... I have spoken to a number of friends and gotten a lot of feedback.  Let me fill you in a little on what some of them might be thinking: 1.  He doesn’t know you’re interested:  Ladies here’s the thing about you- you think you can read everyone’s mind.  But believe it or not, that super-hero power doesn’t exist…and it especially doesn’t exist when it...

John 10:10  The thief cometh not, but for to STEAL, and to KILL, and to DESTROY: I am come that they might have LIFE, and that they might have it more abundantly.   What is the GIFT OF LOVE? The GIFT OF LOVE is a LIFESTYLE and a personality that has a desire to give LIFE. The GIFT OF LOVE is the experience of Eternal LIFE manifesting through humans. The GIFT OF LOVE is an attitude and mindset that is rooted in Gods nature. The GIFT OF LOVE is the nature of LOVE as an experience in people’s lives. The GIFT OF LOVE is not a feeling; it’s an experience. The GIFT OF LOVE is the freedom you offer to the people around you. The GIFT OF LOVE is the absence of manipulation and domineering attitude. The GIFT OF LOVE is the truth and trust from God perspective. The GIFT OF LOVE is the value you add to peoples lives with a pure and Godly motive. The GIFT OF LOVE is any lady in CHRIST, living and walking in Gods Nature. Who is the GIFT OF LOVE? The GIFT OF LOVE is LIF...

My sisters!  When you felt like giving up, God told you to hold your head up. He sent some one to let you know, It’s time for you to let go, Of The hurt from the father that never bothered,  Let It Go The friends that promised to be there through thick and thin, that walked out on you, Let It Go The words that was said, “you would never amount to anything,” Let It Go The man that promised you a ring, instead you became another one of his flings,    Let It Go When you shared your deepest secrets with a friend and they put it in the wind, Let It Go The people that spread rumors about you that wasn’t true, Let It Go The abuse from your childhood, that has a stronghold on your mind,  Let It Go   The bad choices you made during your teenage years, Let It Go The names that people called you that brought you to tears,  Let It Go  Ladies let it go. Holding on to all these things...

Martial journey is honorable. Everyone desires a peaceful and love-filled relationship or marriage. Many ladies have a lot of misconceptions about attracting the right man into their lives. Some think it’s by dressing half-naked or by easily getting laid that attracts men to them. This way, however, you will certainly earn some attention, but the question is: who are they? Are they men you would like to spend the rest of your life with? Today, I want to look at how a Christian lady can attract a Godly man for marriage. As mentioned earlier, worldly people employ all-kinds of unwholesome style but Christians MUST stand-out in the following ways. DECENCY There is a saying that the way you dress is the way you’re addressed. Christian ladies must make sure that they dress and present themselves well. Let me tell you: men are visual and no man, including Christian men, who will not recognize when he sees a lady he likes. And how do you as a Christian lady attract his att...

Every woman I know was excited about their wedding day. They couldn't wait to walk down the isle in their long beautiful unique gown to say I do to the man they love and adore. They couldn't wait to hear the words I do from the man they love so much. They were excited about the vows they were about to exchange to one another. The tears dropped, the smiles were bright this was a dream come true. That's how God is feeling about you right now. He can't wait for you to say I do. What are you waiting for? Tomorrow isn't promised. We hear every day someone we know has passed away. He's waiting with his hands reached out to you. He said you don't need a fancy dress, no curls or pearls come as you are he's waiting to hear you say, I do.  Just in case you don’t know what to say let me help you.  I____________ take you Lord to be my first love. To be the head of my house and the love of my life. I promise to obey, pray, and serve you through out the rest o...

Proverbs.16:28 A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends. Proverbs 18:7–8 (NIV) A fool’s mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts. Women of God, do you remember this saying? Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. By now you have come to grips that words are powerful. The Bible says Proverbs 18:21 (NLT) The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences. Ladies, God desires that our speech be used to edify and encourage others, not tear them down. It has to stop!!! God is not pleased with all this foolishness. Stop being the dumpster, letting people drop trash inside of you. Stop listening to it, cut the person off before they get started. If you are the gossiper, stop it, one day you may look around and be the very one someone is putting their mouth on. Want feel so good then. ...

Self esteem: it’s something you need to have a lot of before you succeed and it’s something that no one can give you. The first step towards high self-esteem is knowing where your current level of self esteem is. Most people don’t know and it can’t be measured just by looking at a person. So how do you gauge where you are at? For the most part, if you truly believe you can do anything you want and you don’t let criticism or other people’s opinions bother you, I would say you have a high level of self esteem. If you still get shaken when other people criticize you, click here to learn how you can stay calm in the face of criticism. I never thought of myself as having low self esteem but from my research and experience, I’ve come to recognize that there are times when I show warning signs of low self esteem. Before I tell you what you can do when you see these warning signs, let me share with you the 7 warning signs of low self esteem: Can’t Handle Praise People...