My dear sister in Christ, Low self-esteem can be sneaky. It doesn’t always look like timidity or fear. Sometimes, it shows up as arrogance or a tough attitude that looks like confidence on the outside. But true confidence is not loud or defensive. Proverbs 31:25 describes a godly woman as clothed with strength and dignity. She doesn’t need to prove herself—she knows who she is in Christ. When a lady hasn’t healed from rejection or past wounds, she may develop a hardened attitude. She may speak sharply, dismiss others quickly, or refuse correction. But James 3:17 reminds us that wisdom from above is gentle and open to reason. A healthy self-esteem is not prideful. It’s peaceful and willing to listen, because it’s not afraid of being wrong or misunderstood. True confidence listens before it speaks and seeks understanding before making decisions. Proverbs 14:29 says, “Whoever is patient has great understanding.” A woman who knows her worth in Christ doesn’t rush to defend herself. She let...
They lied to you when they said, “If a lady really loves you, she will stress you and trouble you.” That statement is not just misleading — it is damaging. It creates a narrative that chaos is a proof of affection, that being toxic is a badge of interest. No! A godly woman does not express love through manipulation, confusion, or constant conflict. Love is not pain dressed as passion. True love builds, not breaks. It protects, not provokes. It brings peace, not persistent drama. The Proverbs 31 woman is not described as a burden to her husband, but a blessing. The Scripture says, “The heart of her husband safely trusts her… She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” (Proverbs 31:11-12). That’s not stress. That’s strength with grace. A godly lady who loves you will be a covering, not a constant crisis. She may correct you, but not crush you. She may challenge you, but never choke your peace. Her presence will inspire growth, not drain your joy. When a woman stresses and t...