I just discovered of recent that the obstacle of youths is Grace. Looking around me I can see how youths and even teenagers are so hungry for attention, affection, respect and approval at all cost. That's not the problem. We are wired to seek  for these things but some people don't stay with the Grace God has given them. No body can value you above the value the Grace God has given you will offer to you. Some times, people put laws into their own hands. They put up attitudes, create events and situation to set up  and create value and respect for their selves. But unknowingly to them, their pursuit to create respect and value for their own self is what is tearing the value and respect God's Grace is preserving for them. Don't make any body like you. Don't prove to any body you are valuable and unique. Don't use your own fears and doubt to judge people. The greatest challenge of people is that, they don't feel respected because they are not co

I want you to know the female gender is unique and blessed because of the diversity within your nature.  Ministry and Marriage is the glory of any lady.  Your creativity is a ministry. Your character is a ministry. Your mindset or thinking pattern is a ministry. Your intellectual is a ministry. Your anger management is a ministry. The way you treat and talk to people is a ministry. The way you make decision is a ministry. The way you forgive is a ministry. The way you show compassion to people is a ministry. Every activity in you and around you is a ministry.  You possess much wisdom and uniqueness because of your kind of assignment as a female gender.  The success in your ministry is the prove you are ready for marriage.  Don't just come ready for marriage with your beauty and body alone. COME WITH YOUR CAPACITY. Be prepared, keep preparing and come prepared!  accepting a proposal from a man is a ministry. Relationship is a ministry.  What is ministry?

You are a lady but not lazy. You are a woman but not weak Pursue all the Lord has kept in your hands and heart Live above your fears, worries and doubt Turn your pain to passion. you may loose all but don't loose your peace of mind Let this mind be in you just as it is in Christ Jesus.  Be encouraged

Beloved of God!  I have always be writing that it's necessary for you to be friendly but I also want to set a balance to it.  Being a Godly lady comes with a lot of expectations and people observing you to see if you will live according  to what you believe  .       *Be friendly but don't be cheap!*  My sisters, my heart bleeds when I see lady become so cheap in her pursuit of being friendly.  It's okay for you to be friendly, pick your calls or call back when you see miss calls. It's okay to reply whatsup message etc. But please, stop picking the calls of people who are not saying any thing meaningful. Stop picking the calls of people who have no value to add to your calling, creativity or spiritual growth.  Be friendly but avoid people that kill your time and people with empty and useless conversations. Avoid people with empty jokes, and gossip.  I have always taught you not to play hard to get when a man is interested in you, but I wan

My Sisters,  Wisdom is the strength of beauty but understanding is the life of beauty.  Beauty or intelligence has nothing to do with you being unfriendly. A 34 years old lady share her story with me and what unfriendly attitude has caused her.  When you are not friendly in nature, you push people away from your self and when you need a serious relationship, and you become friendly ; it will paint you desperate because on a normal Day - no guy knows you as a friendly lady.  Being friendly in nature is the greatest gift you can ever give your self as a lady. Be friendly for the sake of being friendly even if the guy will not date you. Some men are just destined to be friends with you; adding value to your life. A man is just meant to be your friend first, then grow into intimacy with you from that stage of friendship. A song writer wrote, HOW CAN WE BE LOVERS WHEN WE CANT BE FRIEND?  This drama of knowing a guy for the very first time and the next thing is

Accept at Foresight Habakkuk 2:1 I will stand upon my watch, and set me upon the tower, and will watch to see what he will say unto me, and what I shall answer when I am reproved.   As a lady, the first step to accept at foresight is in you standing. A lot of ladies are sleeping in ignorance, procrastination, and excuses; this is not the will of God. Some ladies that are standing are standing in pride, greed, lust, and ignorance; this not the will of God. Teenagers and youths are confused of their future because no mother modelled the attitude of standing for them. As a lady standing is you knowing who God has created you to be. Standing is self discovering through the Word of God. Standing is being responsible and accountable to God in every aspect of you life. My sisters, God created you a female so you can stand; stand for your self, standing for your siblings and your generation. To stand is you studying and meditating on the scriptures. If you must accept at fore

Ladies of Godly Value I want to start by asking you this question; WHAT ARE YOUR CORE VALUES?  I was in the midst of 15 ladies and all these ladies are graduates of university. None of them even know what a "core value" mean. I was shocked and at first I thought it was a joke but sadly it's not. Marriage is God's plan for you but allow the consciousness of who to marry to blind you from the necessity of life is dangerous. What are your core values? Have you define your core values?  Who is influencing your core values? Is God pleased with your core values? Have you written your core values?         What is core value? Core values are the fundamental beliefs of a person or organization. These guiding principles dictate behavior and can help people understand the difference between right and wrong. Core values also help companies to determine if they are on the right path and fulfilling their goals by creating an unwavering

Beloved!  I have being saying and the scriptures agrees with me that every ladies is a suitable helper - to her generation and to her future spouses (for singles) In this same truth I have discovered that the devil is take advantage of this truth to misled God's daughter. Becoming a suitable help or developing the capacity of a suitable help is not you abandoning your life and what God has called you to do. No! What this really implies is you embracing it more!  Becoming a suitable helper is not a call to deny your self and live your life for a man or for your generation. Becoming a suitable helper is you accepting your self, and giving your self the suitable help you need to become all God has created you to become. You can never become a suitable helper to any one if you have not yet learnt the art of you offering your self the suitable help you need to offer your life.  You will never be able to support and bear the weight of any man's vision unti

I am not here to teach you. I am here just to suggest an idea to you. You are free to discard it or embrace it!  I don't know it all. I don't have it all. I have not seen it all. I am not better than you. You have your uniqueness and I have mine. So on the ground of co-human, I present my suggestion I will focus on a subject tagged: *Your dream relationship* First thing first - your dream relationship.  I will start by this: RELATIONSHIP was created for you and apart from relationship, you worth a value.  Your dream relationship will never become real if you lack the accurate knowledge and understanding of your *identity* Who are you? This is the first question, you should be able to define and identify. My sister, I am an advocate for ladies and I believe that ladies were not just created for relationship and marriage and child bearing alone. As a matter of truth, this ought to be the last thing on the list when it co

What you wear has a direct impact on how people see you. Whether or not you like this conclusion, it’s science based. You can argue with the facts, but they’re still the facts.  Which leads me to my next question, what, then, is the purpose of wearing a bikini? That’s what I want my unborn daughter to consider one day when this question comes up (and in this culture, I’m sure it will). Is it because it looks stylish? There are lots of stylish suits with more cover. Is it to get her stomach nice and tan? Who’s going to be seeing that stomach? Is it to get attention from the opposite sex? That kind of attention has nothing to do with true affection. Is it because “I CAN”? Why not choose to assert your rights in ways that actually benefit you and society? Is it because “I have a nice body”? Yes, you do! And you should protect that awesome body from people who don’t value it. It’s important to challenge culture and the perspective we have regarding modesty

My Sisters! OUR PARENTS, OUR CLASS ROOM. I suffered a lot before the Holy Spirit was helped me to understand this truth and since then, I had rest of mind. First, your parents are the best parents ever. It's either yes or yes. They might not be who you want them to be. But you are here today because your parents made a way for you. It's easy for your gender to pick faults with dad or mum's life but what we have not be able to notice is the wisdom in their mistakes. The mistakes of your parents are the greatest treasure and inheritance. If you loose the touch of it, you will end up being worse than when they have become today. You might agree with me or disagree but your parents tried their best and gave their best effort. You can sit and judge them for some things but what you don't understand is "the struggles of parenting." You expect a lot for your parents but what you don't know is that they are confused about some issues just like you. They

In the world of love and relationship, we always have the ups and down from time to time. There will be times of pain and time of refreshing. I want to use Eccl 3:1 as my case study here. I also want to dedicate this post to ladies. You are God’s daughter and you deserve the best in love and relationship. There is time for every thing in life and I want you to open your eyes and learn. You can’t just be living as thou you can do what we like just because you are pretty or because you are heart broken. You need to come to a place where you respect order, time, and season. This is the first principle in you becoming the lady God has created you to be. He is innocent! You might not agree with me but this man in front of you. This man that asked you out or the man you just accepted for a serious relationship is innocent. I need you to come to place where you let go all the anger, revenge, and bitterness in your heart. I know you gave your best to your ex. I admit that you were ho

Lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don’t have what it takes to be one without Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mind-sets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with Your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace, and joy (Galatians 5:22-23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transform me. Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You d

Do you want to use your strength to figure out a way for your self or you will choose to depend on God's Grace for your life? Whatsoever God's Grace has not given you, you don't need it. I want you to be comfortable with your present lacks and be humble in your present provision. Your value is not about what you HAVE but it's all about WHO you are. Never you forget that. Where you are now does not in any way define WHO you are. Where you are presently in life is just a passing phase. Those people that thinks they know you now because of what you lack and where are now are MAKING A BIG MISTAKE. The truth is this; they don't have a clue to who you are becoming daily in Christ. Those that want to mock you should continue. Those that insult you should continue. Those that despise you should continue. Lift your eyes from them. Look ahead and see the beauty of your future in Christ. You are of a high breed of God's Grace. You are not in their low class.

Worship is not just a song but a lifestyle. Worship is not about the sound or music. Worship is an attitude. Worship to God is in every thing we do, see, think, desire and expect. Worship to God is the way you treat people (even when you are angry). Worship to God is in what you do when you are excited. Worship to God is in how you listen to people in conversation. Worship to God is how you depend on God for making every single decision of your life. Worship to God is in your polite words to people. Worship to God is in how you manage your sexual urge. Worship to God is in the choice of the kind of website you vision online. Worship to God in the way you forgive, love, and have compassion on people. Worship to God is in the way you discipline, rebuke and correct people (as God's children). Worship to God is in how you breakup with some one you are dating with the consciousness that this person you are breaking up with is still precious to God. Worship to God is the ki

Here are the qualities that these real men are looking for in their  brides-to-be:  Realness It’s sometimes hard to believe that being “real” is attractive to a man.  I think it’s easy for women to look at the billboards and magazines that fill their minds with airbrushed beauty and enhanced bodies and think that being real makes you less than the others.  But I’ve found that real men are attracted to a woman who reveals her natural self. There is something about the beauty of a real woman that far exceeds the plastic Barbie version of their selves that women so much strive for and believe in. But men are not simply looking for a woman who is real with her appearance, but real with who she is.  When it comes to attracting a real man, there is no need to pretend.  They’re not looking for a woman who pretends to be into sports, cars, sex, or anything else she thinks her man wants.  They are looking for a woman to be fully herself…personality, quirks, deficits and all.