When you notice this act, bring it up and talk about it. Deal with the issue and make him to understand how it hurts you. If he can't trust you, don't convince him or prove any thing to him. If he cannot respect your feelings and emotions, don't beg for it - LET HIM GO. Define it, take your stand and let him go IF NECESSARY. Respect him but make him to understand that you won't accept the abuse of him testing and toiling with your feelings. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up. Don't be carried away by your emotions. Don't let his looks or any thing entice you. It's not in your power to choose who to say yes or no or wait - your divine assignment, purpose, & calling ought to dicated for you. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up. You are a helpmate, your vision and calling is meant to compliment his own vision. His vision is meant to be the platform for the expression of your own vision in Christ. Your

WHEN HE PROPOSE... The first thing you must understand is that every man has the right to express His intention towards you. Don't you ever make a man feel it's a sign of weakness for him to express his feelings or intention to you. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up. I want you to embrace this truth: Never you despise, insult or take any man for granted because he proposed to you. Even when you are not interested in him, learn to respect him. Some men are not afraid of a lady saying no to their proposal, they just hate how rude, insensitive and abusive the lady throw at them because they proposed. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up. As a lady, you are free to say 'NO' or 'YES' to any man's proposal but how you say YES or NO is what really count. What experience do you leave with the men that have proposed to you? If you respect your self, you will respect the men that have proposed to you. If you a

WHEN HE IS NOT PROPOSING... As a lady, one of the quality of a Godly lady is being friendly. Don't let your insecurity drive you into the place of isolation. This is a necessity you must embrace. Be friendly and know where your limts starts. When He is your friend or when any male friends of yours are in the friend zone - it's perfect. You are meant to keep your male friends at friend zone. Don't give people the wrong impression by allowing a male friend do things around you like you are dating him. When any man comes around you, please do ask him to define the friendship. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up. Some ladies live in assumption, thinking the man is taking his time but this is wrong. keep every male friend where they belong and keep every man at friend zone. How can a man that you have not yet accepted for a serious relationship, call you sweetheart? How can a man that you have not yet accepted for a serious relationship, b

SECURITY Accepting a man for a serious relationship will demand you to be emotionally secure. Are you comfortable with your self? Do you get intimidated by a man’s success? Can you be humble to learn from a man? Are you secure? This is God’s pattern for handling proposal. Is your confidence, plans, project and vision strong enough to conquer his fears, worries and doubts? Can you attitude command respect from him or it makes him to doubt his security? Can he be confident to say, I will be fulfilled in life if our children inherit your attitude? How secure is he around you and around the friends you keep? Can he trust you with his money? Can he trust you with his past? Can he be free to be his self without the fear of being judged, condemn or rejected? This is God’s pattern for handling proposal. How secure can he be around you? Can you support him, encourage him, and stand up for him in the midst of your friends, his friends and your family? This is God’s pattern for h

FREEDOM AND FLEXIBILITY Are you the kind of Lady that respects a man’s decision? This is God’s pattern for handling proposal. Relationship is a platform of freedom and flexibility. It’s not a place for Manipulation and being domineering over a man. This is not a place for you alone; it’s a platform for you and any man you have accepted. This should be a platform where the man’s opinion and decision count. It’s a teamwork – not a lord and servant affair. This is God’s pattern for handling proposal. As a Lady, you should be able to give any man the freedom to say, do, and achieve things that surround his own interest, talent and creativity. It’s not all about him becoming what you want. It’s all about him becoming his real self – the person God created him to become. This is God’s pattern for handling proposal. You must be a Lady that gives a man the freedom to express and use their talents and creativity. You must be the kind of Lady that is not intimidated by the su

Every friendship must be NEED define. What are you looking for in life? What do you have? What is he looking for in life? What does he have (creativity, vision, ideas)?  You must be able to feed his need and he must be able to feed your need. Your need must be defined through the scriptures, your talent and creativity. This is God’s pattern for handling proposal. Friendship is all about feeding each others NEED. You must understand that NEED are either carnal or Godly. You have no business feeding his carnal NEED or him feeding your carnal NEED. Carnal NEEDS are the work of the flesh, lust of the eyes, pride of life, and lust of the flesh. God is not expecting you to feed his carnal NEED or him feeding your carnal NEED.  Godly NEEDS are the self development in the area of your talent, creativity, and the fruit of the spirit. God is expecting you to feed him NEEDS in these areas and he is meant to feed your NEEDS in these areas. This is God’s pattern for handling propos

Relationship is not a path of you shifting your responsibility on a man. It is not a platform of a man living his life for you. Relationship is not a path that should make you a liability to a man. It’s a life that should make you embrace your responsibility for your self. This is God’s pattern for handling proposal. If you are lazy, stop looking for an industrious man to date in order for him to be responsibility for your laziness. A man is not meant to be responsible for your laziness. Be responsible for your self. Deal with your own laziness and be industrious before you accept dating a man. This is God’s pattern for handling proposal. As a Lady, if you can’t manage your anger, stop frustrating a man that is patient as an excuse for your irresponsibility. Deal with your own anger. No man ought to be responsible for your inability to deal with your own anger. This is God’s pattern for handling proposal. If you don’t know how to spend money wisely, stop waiting f

Amos 3:3 Can two walk together except they agree. You are welcome to LADIES OF GODLY VALUE. In this month of September, we shall be looking into a topic the Holy Spirit has instructed me to teach through His Grace. Last month (August), we looked into the issue of ‘LADIES! WHAT IS THIS YOU HAVE DONE.’ and the Lord was able to deal with certain issues we’ve over looked. Praise God! Let’s go into the business of the day. May the Holy Spirit help you to learn and understand His intention on this subject in Jesus Name. You are welcome to this seminar and on this platform. The Holy Spirit wants to teach us the truth of Him Word. I am writing this by His Grace; I don’t know it all or have it all or seen it all. In Christ Jesus my knowledge in complete. What is PROPOSAL? PROPOSAL is a SUGGESTION, APPLICATION, PLAN or OFFER for a relationship to a man, presents to a lady with the option of her accepting or decline. These usually come with the freedom of choice an