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The Proposal - Part 7


WHEN HE PROPOSE...

The first thing you must understand is that every man has the right to express His intention towards you. Don't you ever make a man feel it's a sign of weakness for him to express his feelings or intention to you. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up.

I want you to embrace this truth: Never you despise, insult or take any man for granted because he proposed to you. Even when you are not interested in him, learn to respect him. Some men are not afraid of a lady saying no to their proposal, they just hate how rude, insensitive and abusive the lady throw at them because they proposed. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up.

As a lady, you are free to say 'NO' or 'YES' to any man's proposal but how you say YES or NO is what really count. What experience do you leave with the men that have proposed to you? If you respect your self, you will respect the men that have proposed to you. If you are abusive in nature, you will also baptize the men with abuse too. You have no excuse to be abusive. If you can't handle the pressure men throw at you through their proposal then you are immature. Stop the excuses and grow up. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up.

Avoiding Him does not display wisdom. You choosing not to reply his text messages is not a display of wisdom. You might not have words in replying his text messages but a simply "thank you" reply will do alot good. When he calls to check up on you, appreciate it and thank him. When he calls, be friendly - the fact that he has proposed or ask you out does not mean, HE IS NO LONGER A FRIEND OR HUMAN. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up.

Proposal is not a chasing game. God did not create it that way and don't make it a chasing game. Proposal is a presentation and an invite for you to be part of some one's vision and life. Proposal is an optional request you can say yes or no willingly. It's either you are interested in the proposal or you not interested. There is no two ways about  it. You are not doing him a favour. You need this and he needs this. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up.

The fact that this man has proposed to you does not mean he has committed a crime. This does not mean you stop being friendly and being unfriendly does not mean you are expensive. BE YOUR SELF. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up.

Keeping silent and avoiding him can really be hurting on his side. Be considerate and show respect for his emotions and request. If you are confused and need time to think through, voice out and let him know. Carry him along, stop keeping him in the dark. He is also human like you and he has the right to be carried along by you. He needs to know what's going on. If it's yes or no or wait  - speak out! This is what you must consider before proposal shows up.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you don't know him and you need some time to get to know him before you make your decision - let him know. Carry him alone, don't leave him confused. Stop keeping him in the dark. If you can't respect him now, you won't be able to respect him in future because the future begin now and here.

WHEN HE IS TESTING YOU...

Just like you don't have any business or right to despise him, so he does not have the right to test you. Love will always trust and love does not test and toil with peoples feelings and emotions. Stressing you and putting you under pressure with his quest to know if you really love him is deception. It's not Godly. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up.

Jesus is our standard - Jesus never test or toil or stress or put any one under pressure with the quest to know if he can trust them. He trusted people and believed in people. Even after Peter denied Jesus three times, He still trusted Peter again. If Jesus you and him gave your lives to never toil, test or stress any one's emotion and feelings - no one has the right to do such. There is no excuse that qualify that, no matter how good and reasonable it might appear. This is what you must consider before proposal shows up.

To be continued...

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